a question for you, if you’re shy too
sad, true December 17th, 2006Is there a time of day when your shyness is more pronounced?
For me it’s worst in the morning, and late at night. To really appreciate this, you have to know what I’m normally like when I’m out and about. If I see someone walk past me in the opposite direction, I make eye contact and usually smile or say hello or something. It’s nice to acknowledge another person’s existence. We’re all human beings, after all, but you’d be surprised how few people respond in kind. It’s a smallish pet peeve of mine.
But I noticed it when I was walking over to get coffee. On the way over there, there were a lot of people out walking–it’s an exceptionally beautiful day–and I could hardly meet their eyes. And once I was there and ordering and stuff, I was really anxious and fidgety the whole time; way more than I ever am normally. It’s only Peet’s, y’know? I’ve been there a thousand times! Maybe it’s cause I spent the whole evening inside yesterday, and all of today, and when I go out I have to re-acclimate myself to contact with people again. . .?
Weird. I’m kinda like a cat, I guess. Move super slowly, keep putting your hand out and I’ll come to you. If you make a sudden movement or noise, I’m gonna run. But once I really trust you, I’ll curl up on your lap or maybe even let you rub my belly.
The other time is late at night. Once my body thinks, “OK, goin’ to bed now,” my brain’s kinda ‘done’ too. Not that I’m socializing much when it’s really late at night–no one’s ever around–but I’m just letting you know, for the sake of this discussion.
What’s your experience been?
December 18th, 2006 at 1:38 am
For me it’s all based on the amount of time I spend by myself. I’m hermitting all weekend and suddenly Monday rolls around and it’s all like “Bright…shinnnnnnyyy…” and I tend to just stare at people when they talk to me until I remember that I’m supposed to respond.